Why should you write your own wedding vows
Although there may be some restriction on writing your own wedding vows,
having personalised vows lets you move away from the standardised
wording and bring some thing different to your wedding. Exchanging your
vows is one of the most important aspects of the ceremony. This is time
where you get to gaze into each others eyes and block out the world
around you. If you ever wanted to shout from the roof tops about how
fantastic your partner is and how happy you are, then this is the
perfect opportunity. It's also a opportunity where you can emphasise
your friendship, the meaningful moments that you already have and your
dreams for your future together. See the top tips for personalising your
wedding vows.
From your guest's point of view, it the time where
they really pay attention, for them this is what the wedding ceremony is
about.
Statutory civil Wedding Vows
However there are statutory civil wedding vows for
England and Wales that are required to make your marriage legal and must
be said by the bride and groom. These are:
"I do solemnly declare that I know not of any lawful
impediment why I [insert name here] may not be joined in matrimony to
[insert partners name]"
"I call upon these persons here present to witness
that I [insert name] do take thee [insert partners name] to be my lawful
wedded husband/wife."
If you choose to have a civil wedding ceremony you
will probably be given a choice in your statutory vows, each with have
the same meaning and are legal.
You will be able to add your written wedding vows
before or after the statutory civil vows.
Top tips for writing wedding vows
• Your vows should be created with your guests in mind
as your wedding vows are a public declaration. While they should be
meaningful to you and your partner, your guests should be able to
understand what you are talking about.
• Long wedding vows will become tiresome to listen to,
kept them relatively short and don't include intimate details. You may
be happy to share these but they might make some of your guests feel
uncomfortable.
• Your wedding vows should include a promise to deal
with change together and grow closer as a result of bad times or
obstacles.
• Ensure you discuss your wedding vows with the person
conducting the wedding ceremony, as it is them who will give the final
say on what your wedding vows can or can not include, they may also give
you a new idea or two too.
• Ensure you have a copy of your vows on your wedding
day, you may have memorised them perfectly standing in front of the
mirror or with a friend, but when your stood up in front of more people
than your used to, it's very easy to forget your lines and you'll feel
awful if mind goes blank at the crucial moment.
• Don't rush through your wedding vows. If you not
used to speaking publicly the tendency is to get it over a done with as
soon as possible but if you've gone to the trouble of writing your own
wedding vows people should be able to hear them. Speak slowly and
clearly.